Exhausted & Exhilarated.

Several years ago an experienced professional visited Delarc and wrote about his visit in his organization's newsletter, one with a state-wide if not national distribution. His tour was thorough. Our agency was one of dozens he had visited over his career.

He was quite taken with what he saw and the article contained many wonderful comments. One line he wrote though has stayed with me all these years later. When talking about the energy and spirit of our staff he wrote, "Exhaustion and exhilaration at the end of an 8 hour day."

Now, so many years later, and once more 30,000 feet over the Carolinas that's the line that sums up this trip. Up at 3:00 a.m. to drive two hours to Atlanta to catch an 8:30 flight home we're feeling exhilaration and fairly exhausted. It's hard not to be exhilarated when, once again 100% of the staff from two very different organizations are raving about the Shift Happens training we provided them this week. And while part of the exhaustion comes from being up at 3:00 the majority of it comes from the grueling training schedule and the associated physical and mental exertion.

Monday and Tuesday with one organization just north of the city of Atlanta, and Thursday and Friday with another an hour and a half away, Wednesday as a day of travel, debriefing of one, preparation for the other and then there's the matter of our real jobs back in Delaware County. Phone calls, emails, letters, and other items as necessary and maybe a little exercise fill up another ten-hour day.

Both agencies serve individuals with developmental disabilities but that's where the similarity ends. One was larger, one offered several other services, one had a foundation set by religious tradition, one was a division of a huge corporation, one focused on a limited geography, one had just recovered from a serious setback.

In both cases there was a mix of new and veteran staff. I loved it when one of the higher level administrators, who had lots of experience on the front lines caught me at the end of his second day to tell me that he agreed to attend the sessions because it was the right example to set, but that he expected it would be rather typical; something to be endured. He told me that he had "sat through" tons of training sessions over the years and to his absolute delight this was the best one ever. It was a comment shared by everyone else in both groups. Pretty awesome but read on…

How great is this?

On Monday and Tuesday a young but experienced woman suffered through the days with a serious head cold. She was sniffling throughout and used way too many tissues to count. Several times over the two days, Chris and Stacie, my teammates this time, and I commented to ourselves and to each other about what a trooper she was. She didn’t just hang in there, she fully participated. At times she was skeptical to the point of resistance, yet she displayed a hunger and eagerness to learn.

When the session ended late Tuesday afternoon she expressed sincere gratitude for all she learned. We told her we appreciated having her in the group and were proud of the way she went about learning and wished her well.

I don't know about Chris and Stacie but I was sure she was heading straight home to bed. We then turned our attention to a small group of their leadership team to debrief the two days and confirm the objectives they had set for the next six weeks.

About 30 minutes into the debriefing, our cold victim reappeared and politely excused herself for interrupting. She said there was something she felt she just had to tell us. She went on to say she had just spent the last half hour talking to her supervisor about a difficult subordinate… a person older than her with a strong personality whose performance had troubled her for quite some time (years?). She said that as a result of today's training she gained the confidence to confront the individual and the knowledge of how to do so in a way that would encourage improved performance. She said, "For the first time I feel truly empowered." How great is that!
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That was great. Now read this.

24 hours later Chris and I received the following email (which we promptly shared with Stacie) from a supervisor in the same group whose name is withheld:

Hello George & Chris,

I would like to share a story with you. Early this morning I received a call on my cell. Upon answering, I discovered it was a staff at one of our houses who attended both days of the training. My initial thought was "Oh, no" as this is a staff who I like and value, but she only calls me when she has a major complaint or concern, and usually results in me having to do some sort of legwork. I asked her how she was (sick?) and what was up. She then told me that she called just to tell me how much she admires the way I find just the right words to talk to the individuals we serve, and how she aspires to learn that skill, and just how much she appreciates that about me.

I am floored and humbled by the effect your training has had on our staff, and must express to you our commitment to the philosophy. Staff are excited that you're coming back, and look forward to it.

Just wanted to share and say thank you.


An uphill, no, up a steep mountain battle.

On one hand we truly are exhilarated by the response of these dedicated people to the introduction of our philosophy and approach which we were privileged to offer. But, and this is a huge but, funding is a huge obstacle. When we were first discussing the possibility of this contract we learned that the state of Georgia is the 10th largest state in the union by population yet it is 51st in spending on individuals with developmental disabilities. After working with four organizations we're beginning to learn how such poor funding over decade upon decade has created a huge mountain for providers to scale. On one hand I see the obstacles and the state of affairs and my heart goes out to these Don Quixote's; on another my admiration for them grows and grows, as does my desire to make the training we give them the very best.

It doesn't matter how you deal the Delarc cards.

On this trip I was joined by our Director of Residential Services, Christine Fritzsch and our Community Relations Assistant, Stacie Haynes. They represented two different ends of the Delarc staff spectrum. Chris has been with us 20 years, has worked herself up through the ranks with a tremendous range of experience and a wealth of knowledge. Over the years she has conducted enough training for other organizations to be considered a senior member of our training team. Stacie, on the other hand, is fairly new, having joined us only a few months ago, and her work in an administrative capacity has barely given her enough experience to be considered a junior member of the training team. What a great team they were and are.

The organizations we worked with provided a substantial amount of residential services and they found Chris' input invaluable. She was able to give them very specific answers to their many questions. No matter how serious or desperate the problems she offered concrete advice and practical solutions which they eagerly absorbed.

What confidence Stacie showed! She was always at attention, ready to step in and do whatever needed to be done. One day into the training and you would have thought she was a regular. She freely interacted with trainees, offered insights from a newbie, took photos and, video camera in hand, interviewed attendees, and she never once came off as a flack. I was impressed with her confidence and even more so with her perspective.

Over dinner on our last night, the three of us were discussing the training and the exceptional work the two of them did. We talked about the next team of Bo and Jim and of future teams. At one point I said to Stacie that one of the things that I particularly love about Delarc staff is that when it comes to such teams we can take all our staff's names, shuffle them up and deal out any two or three and always, and I mean always, come up with a great team. I know. I've done it time and again. Teams have included executives, professionals, direct service staff, aides, administrative staff, contracted staff and even volunteers and board members.

Always winners. It's amazing. It speaks to the depth of our culture and our commitment to recruit only the best.

Fill those buckets.

Tom Rath wrote a best selling book entitled How Full is Your [emotional] Bucket. When we introduce the topic of praise and reinforcement we sight Mr. Rath's book to show how important praise and reinforcement is to the general population. That sets the stage for helping the audience better understand how lavish we need to be with people we serve, many of whose buckets have been drained for years and years. They get it and they love it. They always leave inspired to use praise and reinforcement as a tool to improve their many and varied relationships and to use it to encourage the people they serve to learn and grow. It is amazing and very powerful stuff.

I hope after reading these passages your bucket is feeling a little bit fuller.

More next time…